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Elise Loehnen – On Our Best Behavior

Podcast 252

In this episode, New York Times bestselling author Elise Loehnen discusses her book On Our Best Behavior, which is about the seven deadly sins and their impact on women’s lives and roles in society. She also shares how women are often conditioned to disconnect from their bodies and emotions due to societal and cultural pressures and how health coaches can help them reconnect with their desires, boundaries, and suppressed feelings.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • The inspiration behind Elise’s book On Our Best Behavior 
  • How writing the book helped Elise with her personal transformation and how it impacted her well-being and relationships
  • The need for collective work to recognize unhealthy language and behaviors toward women
  • Elise’s journey toward self-definition away from cultural and social expectations
  • How can people reconcile their faith with the empowerment and reevaluation of women’s roles in society
  • The role of health coaches in helping women reconnect with their desires, suppressed feelings, etc
  • The concept of envy and how it is reframed in a positive way in the book

Elise Loehnen is a New York Times bestselling author and the host of the podcast, Pulling the Thread, where she interviews cultural luminaries about the big questions of today, including people like Jo Harjo, Loretta Ross, Pico Iyer, Dr. Gabor Maté, and Terry Real. She’s the author of the New York Times bestselling On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to be Good. Elise lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Rob, and their sons, Max and Sam.

Elise has also co-written 12 books, including five New York Times Best Sellers Previously, she was the chief content officer of goop. While there, Elise co-hosted The goop Podcast and The goop Lab on Netflix, and led the brand’s content strategy and programming, including the launch of a magazine with Condé Nast and a book imprint. For the podcast, she interviewed 100s of thought leaders, doctors, and experts, including Ibram X Kendi, Bryan Stevenson, Nicholas Kristof, Ambassador Samantha Power, Rebecca Traister, John & Julie Gottman, among others. Prior to goop, she was the editorial projects director of Conde Nast Traveler. Before Traveler, she was the editor at large and deputy editor of Lucky Magazine, where she also served as the on-air spokesperson, appearing regularly on shows like Today, E!, Good Morning America, and The Early Show. She has a B.A. from Yale and majored in English and Fine Arts; she also went to St. Paul’s School in Concord, New Hampshire. Before that, she attended a school where lunchtimes were spent jumping an irrigation ditch. Originally from Missoula, Montana, it’s important to her that people know that she went to the National Mathletes Championship when she was in 8th grade and that she’s a horse whisperer. These days, she serves on two boards (Jeni’s Splendid Ice Creams and Skinfix), advises a beauty bio-tech start-up (Arcaea), and spends her time writing, reading, and fundraising for causes and politicians focused on environmental action, social justice, women and children’s health, and a more equitable world.

Memorable Quotes

  • “It’s really difficult to liberate yourself from these ideas of what it is to be a good woman and stand alone, because you’ll be vilified and continually sort of painted as a bad person.” 
  • “If patriarchy were so natural, we wouldn’t chafe against it.” 
  • “We women, through trauma, self-hate, etc., are generally totally disembodied… So the most loving thing a health coach can do is to get women re-embodied and re-in touch with our appetites, our desires, our boundaries, our suppressed and repressed emotions.”

      Mentioned In This Episode:

      Pulling the Thread with Elise Loehnen: https://eliseloehnen.substack.com/

      Elise Loehnen’s Website: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/

      On Our Best Behavior Book: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/onourbestbehavior



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